Finally, after a year of mending a broken heart, you come
out of your shell and announce to your friends that you are
ready to meet other people.
However, after several years of having a steady date, you
find yourself feeling eerie going back to dating. It's like
you're clueless. You can't recall what your first date like
with your ex- partner (or you intend not to recall). And
you really want to make it right this time.
At the midst of your apprehension, your friend calls you
and excitedly announced to you that she got you a date.
She talks nonstop about how gorgeous this guy is and went
on to endless list of this guy's achievement and best
features. Meanwhile, your thoughts had drifted to your many
anxieties on having your first date ever after a major
You are afraid that you might screw it up. That the guy may
not be as good as your former. That you will be tongue-tied
the entire time you are together. Perhaps, you may never
have any thing to say to him. That you might become a lousy
date. Or you are never really be prepared on going back to
the dating game yet.
Don't fret. You are not alone. Many have gone through the
jitters too. And it is usual. Don't be too hard on
yourself by backing out just because you fell like you
can't make it. It's just a matter of knowing what to avoid
to make your date click.
Here are the EIGHT COMMANDMENTS OF DATING to the rescue.
1. Thou shall not be late
Do all the necessary preparations ahead of time. I suggest
that a night before the big day, choose your outfit
already. So, that you won't hurry dressing up for your
date. You don't want your partner to see you wearing the
wrong pair of earrings. Make sure that when your guy knocks
on your door, you are all set. Cramming is one disaster
risk factor. So, be careful not to cram. Having your date
stand for 10 minutes on your day will not create a nice
2. Thou shall not narrate break-up history on thy date.
For God's sake don't do this. You are supposed to have fun
and not sour grape over your most recent break-up. And
besides, past is past, bury them all on the ground and
start anew. Your date is suppose to be a new prospect, not
a shock absorber. Your friends have that role already.
Instead of dwelling in the past, know this new guy in front
of you more. Ask him about his stuff like - what he does,
his kind of sports, hobbies, interests and more until such
time you arrive at your common interest. Little do you
know, that you have been talking for three hours straight
and enjoying every minute of it.
3. Thou shall not be tongue- tied
Don't let your date ask you where your mouth is because you
cannot think of anything to say. Or there's something wrong
with you because your answers are all monosyllables. Let
him get to know you better. Tell him what you do on your
work, on your free time, your favorite activities, sports
and stuff. You can initiate a conversation to impress him
more. Men want their women to be witty and sensible.
4. Thou shall not compare
The man in front of you is totally a different individual.
It will be unfair to pattern him to your previous guy or
make a note of comparison. What you should do is discover
this new person in front of you and forget the past guy
even his name if you wish to. Comparison as your standards
will not put you anywhere. It will just make your date a
disaster. And please, do not dare verbalize your notes of
comparison with your date.
5. Thou shall not come in thy worst appearance.
Hey, you are dating because you want to hook up with the
right guy this time. So, you have to create a good
impression. Don't make your date run away from you because
you look like you've come from another planet with your
dress, haven't taken a bath for days and smell like
garbage. Be on your best attire. Look good and smell fresh.
That way, you can captivate his attention the entire time
you are together. And he'll be proud of you as a date.
6. Thou shall not be silly.
The worst thing you can be is looking silly. Do not talk
things as if you're a pro if in reality you are clueless.
You would end up saying the wrong things that will confuse
your date a lot. Look smart. If you happen to be unaware of
what he's saying about the sports hockey, ask him
questions. He will even be amused because you are paying
interest on what he is talking about.
7. Thou shall not be aloof
Guys will be uncomfortable if they notice that their date
seems to be aloof with them. Remember, it is both your
first time to see each other. So, he is equally nervous
about your date. Don't make him feel more nervous by being
distant. Let him feel that you intend to enjoy the night
with him. Be friendly enough to give him your sweet smile.
Don't give him a cold shoulder. If he feels that you
welcome his presence, he'd be motivated to ask you for
8. Thou shall not be nervous
Don't worry too much on having a great date instead enjoy
your date. If you feel nervous, you're most likely to
shake. It will be embarrassing if your date caught you
holding a glass shaking. Don't be over powered with his
presence. Show him you can manage yourself well. Be
confident. Look straight in his eyes when you answer his
questions. Flash your best smile. Amuse him with your wits
and looks. Guys love women who are empowered.
Oscar Walter is the webmaster of http://www.easy-dates.com
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